Shirley, New York. Update from Sue: Since the beginning the police have been looking for a body, not a kid. Her name is Giovonna Pagano, "endangered missing". Sue will be incommunicado now for the Easter holidays. can you please say a prayer for me? severe anxiety, hasn't gone away for days. please pray wisdom for my ND & family doctor and for me. thank you @heidi I will pray throughout the day today for you Heidi. These are surely anxious times. 🙏🙏🙏 Prayer sent up Heidi Prayers for you, Heidi! Thank you very much, Kent, Perhaps Today & Yohanan. I am a little better. Hello family, I think I mentioned my neighbours in the unit upstairs. They were very noisy. It was scary. I feel loud thuds, ceiling shaking,............so many times over the years. It's a man, his wife and a kid. i was very stressed about it and recently got a note from my doctor which I was going to give to the building management hoping they could talk to him or do something. There was a notice outside my door a couple of hours ago mentioning an incident outside the building and police investigating. I called my super. He said that the family were outside the building at 1 am when someone in a car drove by and shot at the man 5 times. 4 bullets missed him, the fifth went into his leg. He died. My super was talking and crying. He said it happened in front of his wife and kid. He asked me if I heard the commotion or shots fired. I said no. around 10 am, I heard loud music and some thuds upstairs, so I decided to turn on the AC to cover some of the noise. I didn't hear anything. I woke up around 4 am feeling cold and turned off the AC. it was only on to cover the noise from upstairs. there are still police in the building. It is surreal and I am a bit shaken. I need to talk about what happened and would appreciate input. thank you. Yesterday. I went to a candle light vigil for my neighbor who was shot. His brother and father were there. At one point they held each other and started crying. I approached his wife and told her "sorry for your loss" I didn't know how she would feel about me because I complained many times about the noise level from their apartment. she nodded her head, pointed to the guy next to her saying that's his brother. I told him that I am sorry for his loss. When someone is gone, you start thinking. Maybe he was a good guy. His 12 year old kid was making most of the noise, he couldn't help it. I should have had a meeting with them and just spoke about what was going on (considered it a few times) I should have gotten to know my nice neighbors.............. The neighbors are describing him as nice, friendly My super told me that he did play loud music, but he had a heart of gold. His job was to keep people safe ( he was a bouncer at a club and I think he had his own security company) Last couple of months, he and his wife would smile at me when they saw me outside the building, he asked me once how I was doing. I am a bit confused now and wonder if I have misjudged people, been impatient, or did not get the chance to really get to know a nice neighbor like some of my other neighbors did. My super said he thinks he might have thrown someone out of the club at one point who took it personally and decided to hurt him. However, a car drove by with one or more people in it and at least 5 shots were fired. Looks more like he was involved in something. I need some closure and peace, not guilty feelings. My apartment now is quiet and more comfortable, no more loud thuds that shook the ceiling every now and then and caused me lots of anxiety. @heidi Heidi, maybe this experience I had may help you too. I was having an anger problem. I found out that the underlying feeling was helplessness. I started asking the Holy Spirit to help me when I started getting angry. Specifically, to remind me I wasn't helpless when I remembered He was in my heart. I did that every time I started to feel angry. Initially it helped me subside the anger. Then out of the blue a peace came over me that lasted two weeks. Personally I believed that is when I was sealed by the Holy Spirit. That was 15 years ago, and I have been managing anger ever since. @rickjones427 Thank you for sharing, Rick. I don't have an anger problem. I am a gentle person. I am glad you are managing your anger. @heidi It is impossible to know if talking to a difficult neighbor will help or make things worse. One never knows what is best to do. I have had a number of unpleasant apartments experiences and can relate to your situation. Living downstairs below an active 12 year old explains a lot. Talking to them may or may not have helped. Don’t beat yourself up over this. Some people are more sensitive to noise. I know I am. Let it go. God be with you. Be thinking about your mansion that Jesus has prepared for you. Your brother in Christ, Kent @heidi Hope you are feeling better about the neighbors upstairs. They should have been more considerate immediately after your first complaint, but apparently they chose to show disregard. It was good of you to go to the man’s vigil. Hope you’re more relaxed and thinking of more pleasant things. @erby Thank you, Kent. Yesterday, I was thinking back about all my interactions with them and they have treated me very badly. they did not even respond to the fact that the shaking and thuds are causing me anxiety. I went up and told that guy once 4 times: I am scared, I am scared .... and he dismissed me saying there is no reason to be scared. the crashes from their apartment could not always have been a 12 year old. One night his wife got drunk and started throwing furniture of the balcony. (super told me) @heidi Your super dropped the ball in handling these people. Eviction comes to mind. Well I’m glad it’s more peaceful for you. Hopefully we go home soon. @erby you are so right, Kent. Eviction should have been considered and here I am suffering for years because of them and nothing could be done for me. the super said you have to deal with noise when living so close to others. nobody did anything to help. here I was feeling a bit guilty after he passed away when I have been suffering for years because of him and his family. it is definitely more peaceful now. thank you, Kent. @erby Exactly! very loud music and shaking ceilings should never be acceptable. one question: he had a camera on his door and had a car drive by and more than 5 shots fired. he must have been involved in something, right? maybe something major. @heidi Heidi, isn't peace wonderful? There is a free travel gift given to you for our upcoming trip by our all loving travel guide. @rickjones427 Peace is wonderful! There is a free travel gift given to you for our upcoming trip by our all loving travel guide. Looking forward to our departure! This year is not starting well. I don't know what is up with our super in the building not doing things he needs to do (it is getting worse) we have no water since the morning, super didn't answer his phone. I asked a neighbor, she said something happened on the 3 rd floor and they are working on it, but she wasn't sure if they really were. we didn't get any Christmas decorations this year. the lobby used to be very beautifully decorated. we got nothing this year. However, they still have candles, flowers and now a little bit of Christmas decoration outside the building where they have like a vigil for the neighbour I spoke about on this thread ( very noisy and the ceiling would be shaking often) why does he have Christmas decoration? Is it our super? I feel so frustrated, I want to tear the Christmas decoration down. @terry Thank you, Terry. Sorry about my rant. I don't like New Year's eve and it was harder with no water for the whole day. I didn't know when we will get it again, but we got it back around 8 pm. I am also wondering about all the candles and decorations for that neighbor. I asked a couple of neighbors what they thought of this, they didn't seem to think much. Our super was taken with him ( I think) imagine him putting some Christmas decoration for that neighbor and ignoring us. It was such a beautiful sight to walk into the lobby from around end of November until the beginning of January. @heidi That's ok; rant when you need to. Maybe it would help to remind yourself that some (a lot of?) people don't think like us. Or we don't think like them. That kind of makes everything different. I'm blessed to live on a farm outside of a small town where in all the years we've lived here we've only met a very few non-believers. Actually I only know of one now. They don't live here and we don't have to interact with them. (Thank God!) The one we know looks at all sorts of things differently than we do. That's ok; rant when you need to. Thank you, Terry. Thanks for the reminder that people think differently. Hi Heidi, I've been traveling so am just now seeing this. I am sorry you were feeling this way but I do not feel you were in the wrong. You should not feel guilty. Some people, no matter how nice they may seem, can be very difficult to deal with. They didn't seem to care a bit about the noise they made so are they really nice? I think not. Even after what you had to put up with from these people you still have compassion for them. That says a lot about you. @yohanan Thank you, Yohanan. what you said is comforting. They didn't seem to care a bit about the noise they made so are they really nice? I think not. Thank you for more confirmation that these were not nice people. 
