It's so encouraging to get on here this morning and see that our brothers and sisters in Christ have taken the time and effort to read my ramblings to share our burden by taking it to our Lord and sharing thoughts about the situation. I can't thank you enough! I want to, but am terrified to call 911 if I hear the lady again because it does sound like an emergency at times. I could take the dogs (sadly only small ones) & daughter and call from somewhere else in town so that we aren't here, but then again, we do have to come back. I'm extremely scared this guy is going to come banging on my back glass door or breaking in to attack us in retaliation. It's like sharing a house- their bedroom is right by ours- our windows are less than 2 feet off ground and glass doors right there in back yard. Complete easy access. We aren't sure about involving the housing management. I may call my sister who is an attorney. She isn't submissive to or sensitive to the Holy Spirit though I don't think. Talking to a pastor is a good idea. My dad is a chaplain...he is protective of us- i texted him some about it and doesn't want us to do more than pray for them and wait it out til sell house and move. We do need to get in a good Biblical church very soon. I have thought of lots of terrible possibilities of what's going on in there and what could happen if this or that...there seems no good options other than God's direct intervention...we can't move anywhere else until our house sells- used almost all our savings to get into this place w/ deposits & now have 2 homes utilities & payments...I'd like to go back to our old home and get it nicer & pack more that's left there to get it on the market if the lady (whose realtor looked at it) doesn't want to buy it so we can get it sold and to get away from this- I had heart palpitations and headache last night- my daughter leaves headphones on constantly and "escapes" with games on her phone & i'm so distracted and upset (I cry daily now- & I'm on the verge of crying almost always) i don't feel capable of helping this lady or even my own daughter because of my own difficulty handling this...it is a very unhealthy situation for all involved to say the least. I can't leave my husband here by himself right now because he can barely walk and is getting an MRI hopefully Monday to see what's wrong. (He still works though.) (Possibly from a fall during moving.) Even if he was fine, I hate the idea of him here at night without anyone else to help if the guy broke in or something...he's a pretty hard sleeper too and the dogs would be with me. I've read it's recommended to cause a distraction during abusive behaviors like set a car alarm off. If I hear her today, I might try pushing the panic button on my car remote thing in the driveway? They say (info on domestic violence online) the very best thing to do is actually to develop a relationship with the lady and show concern & provide hotline numbers and local shelter info & ask if she wants us to call the police when we hear her in distress. If you know them they can give you a few personal items and you make a bag at your place them so if they decide to leave they'll have it & you could take them to police or shelter I guess. I've never seen the lady or the man. I've been inside a lot cuz of covid and trying to unpack & fit some things places (much smaller than our house.) I go in the little back yard a lot, but they are never in theirs. My husband saw the lady when the leasing management showed the house and then saw the man thru a front door window when he went after over 4 hours of blaring "music" with extreme base the night before Thanksgiving. The guy did not open the door. Hubby said your music is very loud. Guy said say what?- this repeated 4 times and then he said yeah, yeah, yeah, walked away, turned off noise and it's never been that loud again. Hubby said he had probably been high or drunk and passed out. That's it for any contact or seeing them. I want to get video cameras at least in case they do something to our cars or come on our side- we aren't very tech-y though... I need to go make another cup of coffee and pray and read my Bible. It's nice and quiet at the moment. I know my God is able and willing to bless us with His wisdom and guidance and if we trust and obey Him, we can leave the consequences to Him as Dr. Charles Stanley says. No matter what, I know He is good, He loves us and He is ultimately in control and will bring good out of the situation for those of us who love Him...He is giving me a heart that breaks like His does for the hurting so that I hate what He hates more...He has reminded me of all the danger I put myself in in my past that He protected me from because I was His daughter and He had good plans for me even when I did not turn to Him and tried to meet my own perceived needs in my own ways without acknowledging Him...I do thank Him for His grace and protection- I can't imagine the grief I caused the Holy Spirit and the hard work my guardian angel had to do to keep me from ending up in some kind of situation like next door. It's only by His grace that I'm on this side of that wall. I’m praying that this noise pollution situation improves and that your home sells quickly so you can move out of this nightmare place. Or better yet … that the rapture will happen this Hanukkah or Christmas! Thank you, Geri! I had same fears you talked about because of the wide open border and so many people being trafficked and beholden/enslaved/threatened to/by coyotes/cartel etc. I won't discuss any more about all the fears that have crossed my mind. The banging sounds like kicking a wall, so I start thinking someone could be locked up or something! (No idea how police would ever know enough to get a warrant and enter without permission from the occupants...& no idea how we could help them know. we can't see their front/side door or see out towards the street where our driveways are...don't know if more than them go there- only know of 2 different vehicles have been there at different times) If it is just one man and one woman, the online help for domestic violence talk about calling the police sometimes making it worse for the woman and sometimes strangers trying to help are in fact in life threatening danger....they all talk about it being the abused person's choice and the need to respect their choices but to offer non-judgemental unconditional support and help if/when needed AND wanted/requested. I have no way to meet this lady though. I may call one of the organizations that deal with this stuff- maybe even the one that is local....or go there and try talk with someone. I'm absolutely exhausted though and can't think well enough to go or do anything at the moment & have to try to get some more sleep. (From what I understand that is how an abused person gets- they wear them down so they won't do anything and they feel isolated and hopeless and helpless...maybe at some point I will get involved at the shelter place so I can help those who do reach out for help....sadly I just read that it takes average of 7 times for someone to leave before it becomes permanent- my husband's family member went through something like that- they'd move her out and then she'd go back & put the kids through who knows what.) I feel like I'm abandoning my mentally ill daughter by needing to go back to bed because I will have to turn on multiple sound machines to not hear the random banging & loud voice that's started again...she is on medicine and seems to be ok w/ her headphones on...I can't believe this is happening... I'm going to stop writing so much on here...I need to call my own family and talk when I have the energy to- didn't want to scare them and haven't wanted to talk on phone...we don't have any family in this state. I'm sorry for too much telling on here...but thank y'all for prayers- they do matter- there is spiritual activity far more powerful than we realize with the prayers of us saints by God's grace and faith in Him. May His will be done. (their garage is almost empty we've seen when door open, so they can easily fit 2 vehicles in it, so no way to know who is there or not when...not sure if could have a camera that went their direction too to their driveway) also, the door to neighbor in house on their side is right across from these people's door so if i go to try to talk w/ the other house, i could easily be seen and heard by these people...i truly hate this...thank you for prayers...i'm not going to update on here probably for quite a while now...thank y'all...if something major happens/changes i will try to say something at some point...i trust God...prayers are powerful...He will tell us what to do and when to do it and what not to do each step of the way just as He has with this whole move- it's been so difficult, but He is clearly helping us when we let Him Though it may seem the Lord is absent through all of this, He is still on the throne! Angels at His beck and call! And His love for you and your family will never end! TR
