Hi Everyone, As the day fast approaches, my mind is moving towards my wife who is not born again, and who gets angry whenever I mention the Lord. She asked me who I love more, her or God, and I can't lie to her, so I'd have to say God comes first in my life, but that doesn't mean I love you any less. but how do I say that without hurting her? Will she be saved through association? As it says in Acts 16:31 - And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. It took many years before my husband was saved. I took the kids to church regularly and one morning, he got dressed up and I asked where he was going and he said that he thought we should go to church as a family. It still took another 3 years or so, he heard the Word, was loved on by church folk, and was influenced by our kids’ belief as young as they were Keep praying, inviting her to study the Bible, and loving her. God is able to melt and change hearts. Never give up. ❤️ :prayer-hands: Oh Gary. So many here feel your pain. I found this article on GraceThruFaith.com. It's not the late Jack Kelley's only response to that verse, and should you want to see others, there's a search bar in the upper right corner. I join in prayer for both your wife's salvation, as this article suggests -- turning it over to God. And many here too hope that our supernatural departure will convict many of our loved ones about the truth we have been proclaiming all along and then turn to Jesus. Hi Gary! That’s a tough one when the person you love most is not of one mind in the faith. Just keep praying for her and ask the Holy Spirit to open her eyes and heart to Jesus. We cannot force anyone into the faith and pushing seems to do the opposite but we serve a mighty God Who loves her more than any person could. Trust in Him and keep on loving her. I will keep you in my prayers! Hello Gary! Thanks for posting your concerns, this is the place where you will get wonderful prayer warriors and good support as we all have loved ones that are not saved. It must be considerably difficult when it is a spouse. Since you mentioned in your post that your wife is concerned about coming in second place in your devotion.....maybe show her the scripture in Ephesians 5 where it discusses that husbands are to love their wives like their own bodies, and as Christ loves the church and gave Himself for it. You can say that it is totally possible to love our Lord God with all your heart, mind and soul AND love your wife as Christ loves the church- As I am sure that you well know that it is truly not a competition, and she might be happy to know that the Lord you worship commands that husbands love their wives and give themselves for them. Keep praying for her and loving her.....those actions of Christlike behavior go a long way in a woman's heart. I leaned more by watching my husband live his life than from most of the sermons that I have heard. Trust me, he is not perfect, but he has demonstrated love in his life to me and to so many others over the years- will keep you both in our prayers too :prayer-hands: Beautiful testimony Churchgal! TR Gary, re: your question, "Will she be saved through association?" I believe that when one comes to Christ in the home, God will continue to draw family members to salvation, first through His desire that all men be saved, by His outstretched arm to them, and by the testimony of the one or one's already saved. But each individual will need to make their own confession of belief that Jesus is God's Son, when that time comes. Ro 10:9-10 This diagram will help you to know that you're doing, saying and praying right in God's will for your wife. In His plan there is no threat to an unsaved wife, because she is covered by her husband who is covered by Christ Jesus, where the whole family is protected under God, in the order He created. Your wife doesn't yet understand that, not yet knowing the blessings that come to a home under a believing husband in God's plan. God does come first in your life, but that is His desire, so that you can then cover and love your wife and family according to His will and His Word. It isn't exclusive for you wife, but all inclusive. That's the emphasis you might want to focus on with her. Knowing that your love of God includes your wife and home, and is not meant to separate. Just love her as God intends, and God's will be done. Many of us still have lost loved ones, so you are not alone. thank you all for the wonderful words of encouragement and the prayers. God bless you all Gary Welcome to RITAN, Gary. :good: Praying for your wife that she would hear the Good Shepherd's call. I think that some unbelievers are offended by our faith because they just have not experienced the Lord in a personal way and maybe we come across as somehow “ better” than them. Not intentionally on our part, but from their perspective it might seem that since we claim to know God personally we are better than them. I love this verse because Jesus says he will personally make himself known to someone that obeys Him. John 14:21 “He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.” Praying that your faith will be rewarded and your wife will come to know the Lord ??. She is so blessed to have a husband that is following Jesus!!
