Boulder, have you written down ALL the offenses you can think of that you have toward your dad? Or have you verbally told the Lord of every offense you have against your dad? If not, please take the time, alone, to do one or the other. Then with each offense, tell the Lord the depth to which each one hurt and angered you. Tell Him how each offense made you feel, deep down. It is important to release every bit of what is tormenting you! At the end of that, however long it takes and when you are able, just speak out to the Lord that you forgive your dad. You can say to God whatever you feel; possibly that you don't feel any love for your dad, or that you don't feel any forgiveness him, but that by faith in what God can do, because you know He commands us to forgive, because you trust God, your true Father, and because you want to be obedient to Him and His written Word - when you are able, tell Him you forgive your dad. Let God work the rest out in your heart, by giving all that you confessed to Him. He will take the burden you can't carry any longer. With your allowing God to have this and move in it, it may mean partial or full restoration ahead with your dad, it may mean little or no restoration ahead. Whatever it is or isn't to be, follow the leading of the Lord. In telling God and giving over to Him these painful things one by one, you will show Him that you entrust yourself to Him, to work within you, to help, to comfort, to heal. What is left will be between God and your dad. Not between you and your dad. What is important is that you will have given your wounds over to the Lord, you will have trusted God in it and with it as He removes the heavy load, giving you that assurance that He can take care of the rest regarding your father. If you are not comfortable with your dad seeing your son, that is your prerogative, but your "no" will be from God's cleansing and not hate filled anger. :bible One last word from me on this matter. My anger was with me awake and asleep. As such Satan would attack my mind by day and by nightmares at night. My anger was an open door for his attacks. May God grant you and Nicole peace and freedom! TR Honestly Boulder, with just the one decision and act of your dad's against your girlfriend, I would agree to not put your son in the place of being influenced by him. Your son is safe with you. :rose:
