i suffer everyday crying all the time and talking to jesus about my marriage. i been with him six years and we have 2 small boys. i am far away from my family in ohio here in utah and really feeling hurt. i dont know where we stand in our marriage, he dont wear his ring anymore and says he dont know what he wants. he is atheist too. i was revealed a scripture 2 corinthians ..i forget what verse, but it says something like what good can come from light and darkness? i need to find thaat scripture, sorry im not that good quoting scriptures. forgive me. but jesus also told me from the bible saying if an unbelieving spouse is willing to live with the believer, then the believer must stay. i need to find that scripture as well. i read material to help me heal from others who are going through what i am and it helps but i discovered that the believing spouses pray everyday, as do i, for their unbelieving spouse and had so much faith, as do i, and god changed them to a believer! it amazes me how our good lord works! i have faith but wish me and my husband would be happy together. i dont want him turning to another girl, i know he is talkin to one and he denies, so i need much prayer from other believers that we will be okay. he says im zero fun and plain, i am this way cuz i am hurting..i cant help it. i used to be so fun. i pray for strength.
Prayer request-Can I have a prayer of blessing in my marriage(23 posts) (13 voices)
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Luke 21:36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man.
Dear A Child in Christ, I am so sorry that you are going through this kind of pain. I will pray for your and your marriage right now.
Dear Father, I pray for A Child in Christ and ask for a miracle in her marriage. Lord, I pray for salvation for her husband first and foremost. I ask that the conviction of the Holy Spirit come upon him and cause him to see that he is a sinner and that he recognizes that he is in need of a Savior. I ask that You will soften his heart towards his wife, and convict him if he is talking to someone else. I ask that You put love into his heart for his wife and that you restore their marriage. And I ask that you heal the hurt in the heart of A Child in Christ and give her comfort. Let her know that she is loved by You and precious in Your sight. I ask all of this in Jesus Name. Amen.
P.S. In case I didn't say it earlier, welcome to RITAN! So glad you joined us, and looking forward to reading your posts. Hang in there, dear sister We're almost home.“Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” — Philippians 1:6
I believe these are the verse you referred to, Child in Christ.
Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
<sup class="versenum">10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. <sup class="versenum">11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
<sup class="versenum">12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. <sup class="versenum">13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. <sup class="versenum">14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
<sup class="versenum">15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. <sup class="versenum">16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 1 Corinthians 7:10-16
A Child in Christ,
I am praying for your marriage to be fully restored with the Joy that you two once shared!
I know Jesus can heal marriages. You pretty well described my marriage at about the six year point.
Next week my husband and I will be celebrating our 32nd Anniversary. We have 3 grandchildren and couldn't be more happy.
BTW...I too am in Utah. We live in Draper :)
Welcome to RITANow, A Child in Christ!
Note that in the verses above that being not unequally yoked is counsel for those who are considering marriage. The latter verses are more applicable to your situation.
Still, I hope you two can work things out and preserve your marriage.
How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Hi Child IC,
My DH and I have been married for 26 years and Have 4 awesome kids. Even though we both are committed to Jesus and our walk with him, we have had a tumultuous marriage.
It seems to follow a 6-8 year pattern ( like the 7 year itch) year 24 was particularly strained for us. It seemed that no matter what I did I just made him mad. If I wanted to go places he would brow beat me about expecting too much from him. If I stopped asking to go places he said that I was no fun and never wanted to go any where. I was so lost!
One day I felt the Holy Spirit tell me to look to him for everything that I needed. That I was to look to him and not my DH for love, support, guidance, provision, companionship.
Overnight ( relatively speaking) I changed. Offense that would normally send me to my closet in tears of anguish now sent me to Jesus in praise and joy. I was doing so well, then one day I was completely railroaded. We were expecting my mother-in-law to come for a visit. I thought that I had one more day for house cleaning( that has always been a matter of contention for us.. four homeschooled kids in the house 24-7 and me with chronic pain = messy house) but then found out that I had less than 2 hours till her arrival.
I put down then dish I was washing and went to my room and sat stunned. I was 100% sure that my DH had done this on purpose to put me in my place, Needless to say I was devistated.
At that moment I had a choice.
1. give up and lose my mind
2. give it back i.e. fight back
3. Give it away and forgive.
I chose to give it away. I remembered what Jesus had told me about letting himbe my all-in-all. In my mind I imagined this situation to be an monstrous beast. I took it and layed it in an alter and ripped it open with a large knife and asked God to receive it as a burnt offering to him. I asked him to burn it up and scatter the ashes of it far from me. Then I went back and finished the dishes.
That week we had the best time ever with my MIL.
Since then my DH and I both started to change and grow more in love with each other and with Jesus. You would not recognise us together compared to what it was like before. God even blessed Me( a stay at home home) with enough of a financial blessing to pay off the mortage on our house ($100,000), pay for our daughter's wedding and pay for a family vacation on the gulf.
Do not under estimate God's ability to change your circumastances if you will be willing to let him first change your heart.
I cannot promise you that your DH will change, but I do know that if you let Jesus change you, you will be okay no matter what your DH decides to do.
All my prayers and love are with you, Paula
Thank you so much for sharing, Paula, what an amazing testimony of God's love, power, and grace! I just feel this will be an encouragement for A Child in Christ.
You are a living testimony of Matthew 6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
When a person puts the Lord first and foremost in their lives, everything else just falls into place.
Dear A Child in Christ,
So sorry to learn of your difficulties in your marriage. Even though you are going through this, God can change a heart so continue to pray for your husband and allow the Lord to display unconditional love through you. I would urge you to go to your pastor and tell him of your situation because he can give you spiritual and practical advice to guide you through this rough patch. You and your husband would probably benefit from some professional counseling, preferably Christian-based. But I would go to your pastor first - he has the resources to help you get through this. You should not have to be groing through this alone.
I will keep you in my prayers for reconciliation and restoration of your marriage as well as salvation for your husband.
Be encouraged, there is help and support out there.
Blessings and love,
thanks so much for the support and prayers. it means so much to me. i pray for you all too. blessed stories of love helps me heal. thank you all!
In a word of encouragement, both my grandpa and my uncle became believers through the patient witness of my grandma and aunt; both after several years of marriage.Luke 21:28 "Now when these things begin to happen, look up and lift up your heads, because your redemption draws near.”
A must read for you is "Created to be his Helpmeet" by Debbie Pearle. It has transformed even the worst marriages and made me fall in love with my husband all over again. Please give it a try. Praying for you.
By the way I am married to an unbeliever too, and am no longer dissapointed in him because he is not saved. That is a sure way to push them away further. Love on him, do fun things together, be fun and smile at him even if you don't feel like it. Don't try to take on the job of the Holy Spirit in your husband's life, He is much more effective than we wives are. Eventually your feelings will follow your deliberate acts of love. Seriously, get the book. Changed my life.
looking it up now. i never push him to believe. he fell out of love with me. thanks im looking up the boom now. im glad yours worked out
i wish it were a free book :-( im poor..hope god can provide it for me somehow.
thank you so much!!!!!!perhaps i can sleep better tonight
Hi A Child of G-d,
If you can find a copy of the movie Courageous, get it and watch it with him and your children. It is a touching movie about commitment to the family.
Marriage is not about being and out of love. In judaism, there was not the crazy love that Hollywood portrays. Marriage is about having a partner, a blessing of G-d that it is your children. Many man nowadays don't know what is to be a man, or a husband, or a father. Many grew up without a father, got into trouble trying to be belong to something. Commitment is the word. We are to be committed to each other, love changes with time, some times people get confused. I also lived in Utah for 17 years, I felt like I lived in the Twilightlight Zone.
When you pray take your husband, your marriage, and your family before the courts of Heaven and ask the L-rd to deal with this situation. Place it into His hands, and just set back and watch.
My son and I pray everyday for the broken marriages and broken children of the World. If the enemy breaks up the marriages he destroys the children.
deann, i am in west haven.
anidjart, i will watch that movie! sounds really nice. thanks! we like watching movies as a family.1 vote of thanks [DeAnn]
Hi Child in Christ,
While I don't have much advice to give you, I do have prayers!
Dear Lord, I ask you to bless and restore Child in Christ's marriage. Lead her husband to you and change him. Show him your salvation and give him a heart of faithfulnes. Marriage is meant to reflect your love and glory and it must be centered on You. In ecclesisastes 4:12 says "a chord of three strands is not easily broken." I pray you make their marriage a strong rope connected to you. Be the center of their marriage and transform her husband into a strong man of God who loves and cherishes her as you do the Church. Also Lord, I pray you comfort Child in Christ. Strengthen and encourage her everyday as she waits for you to move in her marriage. Give her new friends and family to bless her. Bless her financially and provide for her every resources she needs, even the Help meet book or any other book she desires. Thank you Jesus for you are our provider, deliverer and Friend. I ask this all in your name, Amen.
Continue to seek the Lord and lean on him. The Lord your God is your husband and he will be faithful to you even if your earthly spouse is not.
Be a good witness for Christ, plant seeds and love him the way BAMA girl and shrimp suggested. Its your behavior that will show Christ's love and character to him the most.
"Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives" 1 Peter 3:1-2.
P.s, May you can try the library for some books? Some libraries do have a good collection of Christian books, perhaps even the Helpmeet book or other helpful ones.And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Eph. 3:17-191 vote of thanks [A Child In Christ]
thanks for your prayer! i will check out libraries. im staying faithful in my marriage in that our Lord will be with me through it!
Child in Christ, it's important to not watch Courageous without proper preparations. My pastor recommended it, but didn't warn us first and so we saw in unprepared in the theatre.
Have tissues available.
Nothing more distracting than a theatre packed with people all sniffing continuously.
We immediately preordered two copies of the DVD after watching the movie and gave one copy to our son. It's a great movie as well as an inspirational and potentially life changing one. You Will Laugh. And cry.For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. Gal 3:271 vote of thanks [A Child In Christ]
A Child in Christ,
email me you address if you are okay with that and I will send you the book.
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A Child In Christ, I'm adding my prayers to everyone's for you. May God bless your marriage abundantly and bring you and your family peace, joy, and restoration.
Shrimp, I edited out your email address because we don't allow those to be posted on the boards. Thanks for understanding.
God Bless and Love,
Then they asked him, “What must we do to do the works God requires?”
Jesus answered, “The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent.”
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