i suffer everyday crying all the time and talking to jesus about my marriage.  i been with him six years and we have 2 small boys.  i am far away from my family in ohio here in utah and really feeling hurt.  i dont know where we stand in our marriage, he dont wear his ring anymore and says he dont know what he wants.  he is atheist too.  i was revealed a scripture 2 corinthians ..i forget what verse, but it says something like what good can come from light and darkness?  i need to find thaat scripture, sorry im not that good quoting scriptures.  forgive me.  but jesus also told me from the bible saying if an unbelieving spouse is willing to live with the believer, then the believer must stay.  i need to find that scripture as well.  i read material to help me heal from others who are going through what i am and it helps but i discovered that the believing spouses pray everyday, as do i, for their unbelieving spouse and had so much faith, as do i, and god changed them to a believer!  it amazes me how our good lord works!  i have faith but wish me and my husband would be happy together.  i dont want him turning to another girl, i know he is talkin to one and he denies, so i need much prayer from other believers that we will be okay.  he says im zero fun and plain, i am this way cuz i am hurting..i cant help it.  i used to be so fun.  i pray for strength.  

I believe these are the verse you referred to, Child in Christ.

Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion has light with darkness?  2 Corinthians 6:14

<sup class="versenum">10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. <sup class="versenum">11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

<sup class="versenum">12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. <sup class="versenum">13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. <sup class="versenum">14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

<sup class="versenum">15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. <sup class="versenum">16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?  1 Corinthians 7:10-16

Welcome to RITANow, A Child in Christ!

Note that in the verses above that being not unequally yoked is counsel for those who are considering marriage.  The latter verses are more applicable to your situation.

Still, I hope you two can work things out and preserve your marriage.

 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Blessings,

David

Thank you so much for sharing, Paula, what an amazing testimony of God's love, power, and grace!   I just feel this will be an encouragement for A Child in Christ. 

You are a living testimony of Matthew 6:33

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

When a person puts the Lord first and foremost in their lives, everything else just falls into place.
 

thanks so much for the support and prayers.  it means so much to me.  i pray for you all too.  blessed stories of love helps me heal.  thank you all!

A must read for you is "Created to be his Helpmeet"  by Debbie Pearle.  It has transformed even the worst marriages and made me fall in love with my husband all over again.  Please give it a try.  Praying for you.

looking it up now.  i never push him to believe. he fell out of love with me. thanks im looking up the boom now. im glad yours worked out

Hi A Child of Christ!  I pray you will have restoration in your marriage and favor in the Lord.  Just keep your eyes focused on Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.  Psalms 37:4.  I know because it worked for me.  *:)

Hi A Child of G-d,

If you can find a copy of the movie Courageous, get it and watch it with him and your children. It is a touching movie about commitment to the family.

Marriage is not about being and out of love.  In judaism, there was not the crazy love that Hollywood portrays.  Marriage is about having a partner, a blessing of G-d that it is your children.  Many man nowadays don't know what is to be a man, or a husband, or a father.  Many grew up without a father, got into trouble trying to be belong to something.  Commitment is the word.  We are to be committed to each other, love changes with time, some times people get confused.  I also lived in Utah for 17 years, I felt like I lived in the Twilightlight Zone.

When you pray take your husband, your marriage, and your family before the courts of Heaven and ask the L-rd to deal with this situation.  Place it into His hands, and just set back and watch.

My son and I pray everyday for the broken marriages and broken children of the World.  If the enemy breaks up the marriages he destroys the children.

Anidjart

Hi Child in Christ,

While I don't have much advice to give you, I do have prayers!

Dear Lord, I ask you to bless and restore Child in Christ's marriage. Lead her husband to you and change him. Show him your salvation and give him a heart of faithfulnes. Marriage is meant to reflect your love and glory and it must be centered on You.  In ecclesisastes 4:12 says "a chord of three strands is not easily broken." I pray you make their marriage a strong rope connected to you. Be the center of their marriage and transform her husband into a strong man of God who loves and cherishes her as you do the Church. Also Lord, I pray you comfort Child in Christ. Strengthen and encourage her everyday as she waits for you to move in her marriage. Give her new friends and family to bless her. Bless her financially and provide for her every resources she needs, even the Help meet  book or any other book she desires. Thank you Jesus for you are our provider, deliverer and Friend. I ask this all in your name, Amen.

Continue to seek the Lord and lean on him. The Lord your God is your husband and he will be faithful to you even if your earthly spouse is not.

Be a good witness for Christ, plant seeds and love him the way BAMA girl and shrimp suggested.  Its your behavior that will show Christ's love  and character to him the most.

"Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives" 1 Peter 3:1-2.

P.s, May you can try the library for some books? Some libraries do have a good collection of Christian books, perhaps even the Helpmeet book or other helpful ones.

Child in Christ, it's important to not watch Courageous without proper preparations. My pastor recommended it, but didn't warn us first and so we saw in unprepared in the theatre.

Have tissues available.

Nothing more distracting than a theatre packed with people all sniffing continuously.

We immediately preordered two copies of the DVD after watching the movie and gave one copy to our son. It's a great movie as well as an inspirational and potentially life changing one. You Will Laugh. And cry.

A Child In Christ, I'm adding my prayers to everyone's for you. May God bless your marriage abundantly and bring you and your family peace, joy, and restoration.

Shrimp, I edited out your email address because we don't allow those to be posted on the boards. Thanks for understanding.

God Bless and Love,

FW