continue to love him daily and live normally serving your husband because serving your husband is serving god.  be greatful you have him.  not everyone is lucky enough to keep them home.  dont be frustrated.  you will win him over with the godly wifey demeanor by putting him first. that is gods will for wives.  

Most watchers have spouses, children and Church members that respond the same way.  The devil can't afford to let us talk about the wonders of Heaven and the Rapture without a fight now can he?  People are going about the business of living and the rest are too in love with the world and its' stuff.  Someone who has more then enough money was talking about, she has a decent car, that she will soon have her other car ready to drive.  She repeated it a few times to me and my mother. I kept thinking that expensive car means that much to you?  Whatever.

Without the net I would be going nuts holding in much of what I want to discuss and talk about.  And the attitude of "yeah I know He's coming but" or "prove it" wears me down.  No small wonder Jesus gives crowns to the ones that have loved His coming

Know all too well what you going through.
Funny when I was still of this world I got on much better with hubby,
Partying, socialising, caring about floorboards and curtains. It was smoother.

Since being in the world but not of it,
Am on a much lonelier path.
I still care about feeding the kids, keeping home relatively clean etc
Usual maintenance to keep it all in balance.
But now the destination is more important than the vehicle,
Whereas my ,other half, is only concerned with upgrading the vehicle.
It is tough and almost impossible when you are going in totally different directions.
But His grace is sufficient unto us, for just one more day...
Hang in there siesta,s.
Ps are there any wives who think their menfolk are nuts?
Why is it always the other way round !

yankee gurl

i could have written this myself .   you have an identical situation to me

this is where i am at with this  my husband became a  christian and waa baptised at 14 but has done nothing with it  but all i can do is commit him, to our father who will convict  and bring repentance in his time.

the devil would love to take our peace our this but we cant let him..your hubby and mine will be in heaven eventually but yes i would love them to come up in the rapture..#

god bless you friend

xx

I didn't have time to read all the replies.  

Just wanted to say I am surrounded by family who get ANGRY at the suggestion God may return today, tomorrow, next week or even 10 years from now.  they want to retire before He comes, they want to take vacations, etc...  (rolling my eyes in frustration)

My husband used to get anrgy.  Now hes trying to reason with me.  Says that I cannot keep setting myself up for a "any minute now " expectation, that I will fail to live life that way.  He's wrong, but whatever.

I have gotten to the point that i come here for support in beilieving in a Rapture.  Every time I get frustrated, discouraged, beaten down (spiritually), this forum builds me back up.  :D

It's sad, because hubby is missing out on a huge piece of ME.  The most important thing in my life-- Jesus-- and me being called to be a WATCHER...  he's missing out on that.  

I wish he was part of it with me, but it's OK that he's not.  I'm peaceful about it.  

My husband is practical, analytical and it's hard for him to grasp some spiritual concepts.  He doesn't say they're impossible, as he is open to the idea, but unless he can see it, touch it, hear it, etc...  he just can't quite "GET" it.  Know what I mean?  (yes, he's saved, just very young spiritually)

I used to play JD Faraq in bed while hubby was surfing the internet, but it always caused too much drama.  So, I stopped.  

I feel that those who have been in Christ and remained in Christ without straying see things differently than those who have strayed and returned or were lost for years and returned.

Yes, I believe this too.  I never really "knew" I'd fallen away until God showed up in a powerful way.  I gave my testimony in church this past Sunday and told everyone basically the same thing -- if I hadn't had the prodigal season, I don't think I would love God as amazingly as I do.  I think it's because you remember where you were and you NEVER want to get there again, so you CLUTCH on to Jesus with both hands, maybe even your legs too (lol).  It's a real fear that you'll fall away again.  At least for me.  When friends come over and we have a great night playing games or talking or whatever, I can feel myself slipping, like Peter when he sank in the water the moment he took his eyes off Jesus.  When I take my eyes off Him, I sink.  And I'm terrified of that.  So I force myself to stay close to Him every day.

It's sad, because hubby is missing out on a huge piece of ME.  The most important thing in my life-- Jesus-- and me being called to be a WATCHER...  he's missing out on that.

Joyful Heart, I feel the EXACT same way about my hubby.  Mine is a believer and we were both on fire as kids and newly-weds.  But "life" happened, and now he lives like a Christian atheist.  I have no idea if he prays (I'm usually the one who gives the prayer blessing at big holiday meals), but he has no objections to me taking the kids to church.  He doesn't go with me, and it took me a LONG time to get the gumption to go to church without him. 

I can see Christ in him sometimes, when he does something over-the-top generous when I would never do that.  He's a sweetheart, very loyal to his friends, always ready with the advice that is mostly biblical.  But he hasn't cracked a Bible in who knows how long.

When I married him, I was looking for a strong Christian to spend my life and my belief with.  I love him dearly, but sometimes it feels like I'm married to an unbeliever.  He scoffs when I study prophecy, so I've learned to do it when he's not around.  We've had religious discussions as if I'm a crazed fanatic and he's trying to weed out the crazy.  He believes most evangelical Christians are hypocrites, claiming to love Jesus and yet looking and acting nothing like Him.  That's why he doesn't go to church with me.  I think maybe he just doesn't want ME to be a hypocrite.  And perhaps he has a point.  There's a LOT of believers out there who don't rightly divide the Word and understand what the Grace of God truly is.

Anyway, I am in the same boat with you guys.  I frequently lament that NO ONE I know understands how DEEPLY I love Yeshua except for you guys.  Maybe a few of the people I go to church with.  It is very painful that I cannot share that love with my best friend and the one person who's the most important to me in this world.  He's definitely missing out on a BIG part of me. 

But YESHUA has that part.  I comfort myself with the thought that my God is jealous for me.  Perhaps He wishes to keep that part of me for Himself.  :)

~~Becka
 

Dear Yankee gurl

There isn't one person who reads this site that cannot identify with your pain. Wheather it be husbands, wives, parents or children, etc. we hurt and pray for them.

I'm in my sixties and the older I get the more the scriptures come alive. But know this, our part is to be salt and light for those around us. We do not need to preach or lose heart. Nothing we say is the cause of them accepting or dissing God. It is God alone who draws. That has truely taken a load off of me. I still pray for them to become repentant, as I love them so but it is them who must turn to Yahweh when the Spirit woos.

If the door opens and he shows interest then gently lead him. Continue to love him, be warm and a devoted wife. But we must remember when it's all said and done Yahweh cannot have anyone come before him. It is the love of Christ in us that will draw or repel those around us. Sometimes it may be someone else who will water on your seed to produce your hope. We love them so much but just think how much more God loves them. He isn't willing that any should perish, so keep praying and loving.

This is hard to think about and many, (even christians) become angry and say my so and so come first. Our Lord told us these things. In order to be worthy, we MUST put him before all.

Love and Blessings

Brenda

too much to write from my phone, but I have an email at 5doves today about how my wife has labeled me a "rapture nerd" - Not sure why some of our saved loved ones aren't watching, but it won't stop them from being raptured, we watch 2 warn the lost anyway

Ditto!!!  Having only one daughter who believes and looks forward to the rapture, the rest of my family are either non-believers or are filled with (fear & unbelief)!  How sad.  They do so miss out on so much.  Indeed, the true church will all get raptured none the less!  Their crowns will just be different than ours.

PS:  We are all a little nuts, aren't we. 

Love & blessings...Tender Reed

hey yankee girl,  

I would like to share with you as I know we have the similar situation like our husbands are not in the way they should be.

My encouragement for you, Just love him and serve him and love him and pray for him and do not preach him at all  if you do that will make him turn off easily.  if he say dont bother to talk about it. just leave it to  God's hands and pray for him every day and just bless him. that s what i had been doing for a while. i know you are worried about his salvation and dont want him to miss out the rapture. God only knows the best than we do. and God just wants us to leave our husbands to Him and He will take care of them for us and God will use them whatever He has plans for them. even it is hurt to do that but it is worthy to do because as I do believe that God will use my husband whatever He has plans for the future for him. our husbands could be missed out the rapture however God will use them to bring people to Jesus through the tribulation and they will realize how they had done to their own wives before the rapture and they will be willing do for Jesus after the rapture that will impact them really severly.  so I encourage you to pray and love him and be generous to him daily if he curse you, just bless him back with the love from God.  same with God has been patient with us daily we should do the same to be patient with our husbands and show them love. eventually God will turn them around if we are willing to give our husbands to Him and let God do his part. and we are supposed to do our part is to love and to serve and to pray and be kind to him. as they are watching us daily.

so right now i had been see my husband it is turning around slowly. now he started to be caring for me and tells me come and sit down with me and help him to do his boat course. so he did passed h is boat license exam yesterday as i was there to help him for boat course online exam. he was so glad that i was able to be helping him.  i know God is working in him each day and trust in Him because I know God is doing so amazing in my husband and He is setting him free just like He is calling my husband come out from the tomb, cave, darkness and will be set free in His due time.

other wives Of RITA, dont give up loving their husbands and pray for them. i know it is hard however just pray and love them no matter what. If God wants you to do that He wants you do, just do it and obey Him. do not get mad or upset about your husbands if they are scoffing at you or anything like that. just love them and have patient with them same way as God do that to us. God will not give up on us so we should not give up on our husbands and pray for them. as our husbands needs wives prayers daily.

Hi Deborah,

    i have exactly the same problem with my mother, who is saved but like your Husband does not want Jesus to return yet, as She still has alot that She Want's To Do! Sigh!

I tried to show her today a printout that i did, of a list of Global Mass Animal Deaths for 2011/2012,  the whole of 2011's  list is seven A4 pages and the 2012 list a staggering fourteen A4 pages and that's just up to 20th August !!!               

I just wanted to point out to her one of the many sign's that we are living in the end times...her answer to that." That she wouldn't be able to carry on living as normal and without worry if she had all that information in her head. Ostrich Head Sand? or their minds aren't strong enough to cope?

As they say ignorance is bliss. It's difficult, because you want to share what you know with them, but can't as they are on a different page to you and you so much want for them to understand, so that they can prepare themselves spiritually and be ready for the Rapture.                                  

My Heart goes out to you.

Rebecca x

P.S  My Mum now thinks i am spending too much time researching websites about the state of Our Planet!

LOL i spend time researching the earthquakes and the disasters
too hehe

and i watch the news the world news mostly
Israel and middle east

i had to chuckle when i seen that last comment

P.S My Mum now thinks i am spending too much time researching websites about the state of Our Planet!

yup that me my home church calls me the prophecy nut lol

We are just creatures of habit
we are only used to Eartly things
and i guess some freak out when they think about being removed instantly to heaven

the questions
i will be bored
and what will i do there ...

We are human not divine in nature
so it is a big suprise

but i would rather be with Jesus than left behind to face what will come on this Earth !

he likes his tv
his carpentry and his garden
so he freaks aout over not having that anymore lol

im sorry i should not laugh everyone has worries and questions about heaven and what God has planned
it has to be amazing ! yet we never seen it so we go by faith till we get there huh ;)

God bless
thanks for making me smile and laugh a little too

Yankee gurl dow under

Well said Faithwon!

Love & blessings...Tender Reed

lol sure my hasband woul join your wife haha

what a mess , i just have to watch pastor jd when hes at work it cranks him too much

it used to be john hagee and he flipped out lol

so i toned it down hehe

or i use the ole ear phones and plug them onto the lap top

i find ways lol

teen queen wrote:

i mentioned the horrible case where the handicapped 11-year-old girl in pakistan was arrested for disrespecting pages (they're just pages) of the koran, and the whole village mob turned up against her, and started burning christian homes. 

husband muted.

me 'dont you think it;s scary? this whole islamic mob mentality? look at Egypt'...' 

him 'no, i find all fundamentalism scary, especially those christian websites you look at, it makes me feel sick to my stomach'. 

But...   'i dont want to discuss it anymore, please dont mention any of your islam hating again, you are so scewed in your world veiw, i think your christian fundamentalists are just as bad'.   

there, that is the big lie exposed;  christianity is just another crazy religion, they're all as bad as each other. it's not true ! 

Lord, please help, let them see that our relationship with jesus is nothing to do with hate mongering religious lies.  Make us channels of your peace.  Keep us sane, and strong. All of us who are getting accused of craziness, or worse.  In Jesus' holy name.

With all respect, I can sorta see where your husband is coming from. Don't get me wrong--I'm on your side :-) Let me explain what I mean.

Just as in any other human grouping, there are always going to be the folks that take things to the extreme. Our Lord loved people when He walked the earth as a man, and loves them always. However, He despises sin. Unfortunately, some groups of Christians take this and skew it a bit (some a lot), and hate the person who commits the sin. Yelling vitriol at someone because they are caught in the sin of **** is quite similar to hate; the tongue reveals what lies in the heart. Hate is murder in the eyes of God. Granted, this type of behavior falls all along the moral scale, from not so bad, to atrocious (in human eyes). The events that you mention are on the "icky" side of the scale, of course.

Christians have done things (and continue today) that are equal on the human moral scale as the things you've mentioned. We might distance ourselves from those Christians mentally, and rightly so, but the point is this: the people of the earth (not of God) will not see the distinction. They are blind to it, because the light is not in them. These types of Christians are very, very public (often making the news), so this is often what is seen by unbelievers. How sad! Not every Christian is this way, but every other Christian takes the blame for those that are like this.

I don't know if this is the case with your husband, and I'm not saying it is. I'm just saying that society today will happily equate fundamentalist Christians with the folks who did the things you mentioned here, because it seems to be the same to them. As we get closer and closer to the end, it will become more and more like this in society.

I do love your prayer, very much. I dearly wish for this, as well, but I can't help but wonder if this won't happen on a large scale until the Tribulation. I really do think that we're just too close to the end; the darkness is spreading quite rapidly now. We need the Light of the World to come, and come quickly, before the light we carry can no longer be passed on.

Anyway...just my thoughts. Again, I mean no offense.

Yankee Gurl:

You're not alone, sis. My husband also thinks I'm crazy, but I can see why he thinks that, as he's an unbeliever. I pray for comfort and peace for you!