Alright, well to make a long story short, my brother is 17 and has been a troublemaker his whole life with school, family, everything and it has gotten worse throughout the years.
One day a few years back, it reached a climax and he was kicked out of my house and was taken to my Grandmas house to live there to get his attitude straight. When he was 15 or 16, he got in trouble and harassed by the cops. They locked him up in a juvenile detention center, was then transferred to a camp and was brought back home recently last summer an is currently on probation which ends, I think on his birthday, June 6, 2011. When he first got home, he was all sweet and dandy and played nice, but as the days passed by, he revealed his true colors and did not and has still not changed as my family and I hoped. Being at home during the summer... was literally like hell on earth for me because there was really not one day without my mom and brother screaming their heads off at eachother. All they did and still kinda do is argue with eachother. The arguments were horrible. Living with him is so bad, I would never wish this on anyone no matter what they have done against me. In fact it was so hellish, like for example, I would be in my room and whenever I would hear my mom crying or screaming or yelling, that would let me know that my brother is home. Sometimes I tried to kill myself because it was that bad. My dad and him have got into shouting matches and they almost got into a fight one time when my dad pushed him. hes weird cuz at times he's happy and jolly and talkative and other times he's so coldhearted blackhearted I should say and, if u even tried talking to him, he will immediately just cut u off and shut u down or give u a mean, disgusting attitude, that's how rude he is when he's like that. There were times however, where he was happy and jolly bit that was all a fake act and the next day he would immediately go back to his mean sinful ways. Thats why its hard for me to believe whether he's true or not.
It's been a long time since I've given u guys an update but here it is:
About a month or two months ago, my parents found out that my brother got a tatoo of the the gang the he's supposedly in across his chest( I didn't see it and wouldn't wan to). My Mom got enraged, and once my Dad saw him he definitely saw red. It was basically world war 3; my mom crying, my dad yelling, just awful.
Recently he got a job at McDonalds right by our house and he seems to be doing fine there so he says and there were times where he would put his "mask" on and be all buddy-buddy with us and then take it off and just be so heartless. Just yesterday, he started with my mom and he said that he was tired of her and that scrutiny is because of her and he's blindly thinking that my sis and me are always in our rooms and don't really say too much is because of her and because they argue which is untrue; it is him and we have told him face-to-face eye to eye that it was him but for some odd reason I guess he's denying that and puttingthe blame on someone else.
I'm smarter than that and I know how manipulative he can be and I know he's trying to play the victim and make himself look good and make us feel sorry for him.
Anyway, my mom told him that if he was so tired of him to leave the house am sky bro was about to leave, but, obviously, he doesn't even have the audacity to leave.
So basically my mom and him aren't talking. I'm not talking to him, my Dad's not talking to him, my sis isn't really talking to him.
We've tried and tried and tried, but we can't help someone who doesn't want help...
It hurts me so much because he treats his own mom like dirt and just hates her with pure hatred.
He's leaving the house, finally, on his birthday, June 6th, when he turns 18 and when my parents can finally give up their rights for him. So....I'm longing for that day...
But sometimes you gotta let go of the people you love, and if they come back to you they were always yours and if they don't come back, they never were.......
But Ive been wondering, am I doing anything wrong by not talking to him or socializing with him? I still love him despite his evil ways and I have forgiven himand conitnue to do whenever e does my family or me wrong.
Am I in the wrong? I need your guy's prayer and support on this. Please....