Divorce rates are sad but true. 

My parents just last Sunday celebrated their 63rd wedding anniversary.  So amazing to me.  They certainly had rough spots in their marriage but stuck it out.  It's such a blessing to watch them.  My dad teases about some of my mom's quirky ways.  My mom is very protective of my dad, making sure his meds are laid out for him, turning his bed covers down for him, etc.  My dad's going to be 83 in a few days.  My mom is 81.  Not many people around today with those stats. 

It is a sign indeed.

Matthew 24:12 - "Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold,"

I agree.  I loved being married and, am eternally grateful to God for my boys but, that just did not work out for me.  I tried it twice.  I am very happy living alone although in this economy it has been rough.  A lot is expected of wives these days, not just to raise children, cook, clean, but also to bring in enough money so the husband can get those master degrees or just survive this recession in general.  Very sad.  My parents have been married for over 50 years.  I just see no loyalty anymore, I really do not, with my generation and, I will be 46 this year.

Speaking as an unwilling party to divorce - my ex husband had an affair and decided he wanted to marry the younger and more beautiful model - leaving me with our then six year old daughter - I can't even begin to express the havoc divorce wreaks.  For me personally it ruined the life I had planned, the vows taken before God, I didn't want to be a single parent, it left me in financial ruin.  In the meantime my ex husband remarried and had two boys - now 9 and 11 - and our daughter is now 22 and graduated from university last year and is working - but is going to London for 2 years in September on a working visa for the experience - but the divorce hurt her very badly.  For many years she hated her Father and would cry and scream everytime an access visit came along and it broke my heart having to take her - now the tables have turned and her Dad lavishes money and things on her (which I cannot do) - she is now living with him and her stepmother and two half brothers and has turned her back on Christianity - which breaks my heart.  She's taken a cue from her father and is is living a life full of self seeking and pleasure - she's broken our very close bond by being rude and nasty to me if I mention anything to do with Christianity.  I love her regardless - but man oh man - it hurts so badly.  My ex husband is very well off financially - beautiful home etc whilst I was left with nothing.  I didn't want to go to court - I didn't want to fight so I meekly gave in at the time.  Now I am paying the price but at least I love the Lord with all my heart.  I don't know where my next rent money is coming from but somehow the Lord always seems to provide - often at the last moment.

I am currently reading Intercessory prayer because my daughter sure needs it.

I've been looking for work despite feeling very unwell and today I saw a specialist - an endocrinologist and finally found out why - I have diabetes.  I have to take my blood sugar readings 6 x per day for 6 weeks then revisit him and he will decide if it can be diet controlled or if I need diabetic medication - he's also ordered a heap of other tests.

But - the thing is - had my husband not strayed i would have the man I once loved to help me bear the burden and he would have been there throughout our daughter's growing up years - it's caused a horrible mess.

My parents (before my Father passed away 4 years ago) celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary - still very much in love.  That was the kind of marriage I wanted - I guess I picked the wrong man.....

ysiC, Susan

Im a 42 yr old single woman who lived with her fiancee waiting for the big day to happen for... ummm 5yrs. Meawhile he decided that he wasnt quite sure but wanted to keep me around just in case.  I call it "The Simmer"  He gave me everything except the ceremony and certificate.  I woke up from my stupidity and packed my bags.  Felt just like a divorce AND in Texas it's called common law.  SO you know what I did?! I packed up some of the stuff we acquired together over the years and negotiated alimony.  Luckily he believed in leaving a woman better off then how he found her and agreed to help me get on my feet.  <<< BUT you know what? I didnt need his help afterall.  Because I found a new love and his name is Jesus.  Im soo in love that I dont have to get married anytime soon. BUT if I do.. it will be a part of the Lord's plan.  Im not bitter about my past experiences it has taught me a valuable lesson and I know that I can and will love again. 

NEXT TIME IT WILL BE TILL THE RAPTURE LIFTS US BOTH UP and not till death do us part!!!             

for all of the hurting ones on this thread today.

Susan, Your ex might seem to have it all, but I think you know you really are the one with all the  true treasures (our Lord!!!!!) I will for sure pray for your daughter, that she does see that all them things are not what life is about and she comes to realizes she does need Jesus and her mother (Amen) I know that really has to be hard for you right now....I struggle every week too and I have help, but just like you he provides us with everything we need always, and at the last second too sometimes, lol!!!!

Earth seige 77, LOL, really wasn't trying to be bias (I guess I was just thinking more of my own experiences which have been with men, LOL! Believe me I know there are plenty of women out there that are not right either, see it all the time, God bless you and Im glad things have turned around for the best!!

Kar 711, Love that story!! And so true, you never know why things happen at first but when the lord shows you why later it really let's you know he truly is here with us!

Maria, yes we do love to nurture and I think that is the most awesome thing you did (Adopt an Isreal family)!!!!! What a loving heart you have, I think your boys are very lucky to have you and you them, there is no doubt in my mind God will continue to bless you for that, you have a great day!!!! 

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Susan I couild relate to your pain as my wife moved out with  a new boyfriend a few months ago.  It has been a struggle for the last five years trying to keep it together.  It is hard to understand how someone you were so close to could hurt you so deeply and completely and with children involved it is much worse becuase you hurt for them as well.  But I have learned what it means to pick up your cross and follow him and to keep praising God as he is in control.   Remember Paul and Silas(?) in the dugeon, they had just been flogged and were sitting in chains in a probably rat invested wet prison and they started praising God.  Most people would be wow is me and depressed but they started praising God.  So I have learned to do that as well because he knows our pain and someday if not today will wipe every tear away. I think that is  what it will be like for us someday when God takes our pain away. So look up , praise God take up your cross and follow him.  Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted.

I'm sorry that happened to you, jahubba. But, you're so right. How you react to things no matter what other people do can make all the difference, can't it? Paul & Silas praising while in jail - good thing to keep in mind.

My grandma used to say, You can start each day with a frown or a smile. Choose the smile, no matter what! Everything will look better after that.

I met an elderly couple in 1985.  They were holding hands and whispering at each other and making googly eyes.  I asked them if they were newly weds and they replied yes, for 8 years now.  And since I had time I asked for their story.  They had been childhood sweethearts and married the week they graduated high school.  And they had a few children. And they took every chance they could to snipe at one another.  Personal attacks.  Nasty personal attacks.  But they "stayed together for the children" and divorced the week their youngest moved out.

Then they fell in love with new spouses.  One of the second spouses died of cancer, the other of heart disease. But with these second spouses they learned to love one another, cherish one another, hold up one another.  In short they learned to love one another the way God intended it to be from the start.  They met again at their 50th high school reunion.  Laughed at how horrendous they had treated one another, commiserated each other on the loss of their loves, and went out for ice cream.  And fell in love all over again.  And this time they did it right.  I had been married for 3 years at that point. They changed my life.

I saw a piece on CNN yesterday where two female reporters were discussing the fact that divorce was good for the economy and a sign of economic recovery. They said when times were hard people could not afford to divorce but as the economy improved they could and they would help the economy by funding more divorce lawyers and additional housing sales.

I felt that the reporters were showing no sign of remorse in this "fact" and almost were amused at it. I suppose that child abuse is also good for the economy since it provides additional jobs for lawyers, psychiatrists and child support services. 

We are becoming the kind of people that used to disgust us.

Thank  you Jan!!!<3

I almost wish I could have placed a warning sticker on his head so he wouldn't hurt the next victim.

And Texas Thom what a wonderful story.

Jena hubby and I went through some of that in the beginning our marriage he was a broke,single dad with two young kids.Both were a new experience to me.It was an advil commercial lol

So needless to say we fought quite a bit initially mostly about the stress I had acquired with being a new mom to two kids who were pretty wild at the time due to not having a disciplinary in their life before me .Hubby felt bad their mom left and never gave them any rules so me walking in and expecting them to act their age and behave,they were not happy with me.

And you know when neither of their grandmas were eager to have them over that they must have been out of control.U sually,Grandmas LOVE having their grandkids over.

Now we are happy and I adopted his boys 3 years ago.And they no longer act like they were raised by wolves lol

Glaring, major sign...

It doesn't matter if a country has a divorce law or not, this world is getting ever darker.

Like Lila Rose, I have never been married. But I have seen too many relationships crumble before my eyes. It pricks my heart and makes me lose the desire to be in a relationship.

I do a appreciate couples who stick together even in their darkest times because it is right thing to do (although I do understand why others need separate like due to violence). It reminds me of my relationship with G-D. I am a wretched fool. I am. I am. I have done so many horrible things.. things that hurt G-D. Yet He is still there for me. He neither abandoned me nor said I've had enough of you. He still loves me after all that I have done. Seriously, tears form at the back of my eyes as I reflect on these things...

This is a secular song but anyway: